Young, host of the syndicated radio show The Single Connection, and Adams, a clinical psychologist, present a nine-week course of daily devotionals for committed Christians involved in long-term relationships and aiming toward marriage.Weekly "disciplines" focusing on foundational spiritual themes-love, prayer, simplicity-are divided into daily mediations meant to be read in solitude. If you are like most dating couples, you are looking for more than just a companion – you want a soul mate!The essence of a true soul mate relationship is that of deep spiritual connection.And forgive us if we don’t enjoy an evening of mansplaining politics and religion all night or hearing you complain about your awful ex (absolving yourself from all responsibility for the breakdown in the relationship). And we notice when you’re not actually listening and just trying to make, you know, appropriate listening noises. Are you just looking for sex and not an actual relationship? Do you really just want a FWB (friends with benefits) arrangement? Based on The Ten Commandments of Dating, The One, and Devotions for Dating Couples by relationship experts and best-selling authors Ben Young and Dr. He earned his master's from Western Seminary and a doctorate from George Fox University.Samuel Adams, Dating 101 will help Christian singles discover practical strategies for finding a soul mate and building loving, lasting relationships. He maintains a full time counseling practice in Austin, Texas.
So if you want that more intimate relationship with Christ and your relationship with you significant other to grow I suggest you give this a read.I could discuss at length why I think this is: poor societal socialization, the ever-present double standard, mothers coddling their sons, fathers absolving their sons of responsibility, a learned disrespect for women, male privilege or just plain bad manners…or most likely a combination of all of these things. So when we go out in the dating world with all of that self-love, we’re really looking for a man who can add value to our lives. We’re looking for men who can be strong partners, who are confident and secure in themselves. Who can respect our education and work experience and full lives and add to it with their own. If they come up and you disagree, it’s entirely okay to get into an argument about it and to return to more neutral subjects. It seems a sad, strange business, particularly when you’re saying you want a relationship. It’s attractive when someone is body positive and secure about who they are and how they look. Regardless, I keep coming back to the fact that many men are just unkind in my experience. So we might be a little, shall we say, less than impressed when we are hit up for a midnight booty call by the virtual stranger we met online. I cannot count how many times pneumonia has reared its ugly head as the excuse that someone has ghosted me completely for days or weeks on end. I’m not typically paranoid, but there must be an epidemic for as many times as I’ve heard that one. Don’t feel that sex needs to be clarified in advance. I’m not making any judgments on women who choose to sleep with total strangers. For example, I got told once that it was great that I’m so attractive so my date wasn’t embarrassed to be seen with me in public. Say that you’d like to see us again or that you really enjoyed spending time with us and want to have even more time to get to know us. I started thinking about this by examining the difficult interactions I’ve had dating, but I’ve ended up thinking that all of these can be applied to women as easily as to men. And when we do that, I’m sure we’ll find our experiences are much improved. A back-handed compliment is often worse than no compliment at all. Be brave and say that you’re not really interested or you’re looking for something else. Or if you are really interested, be brave and say that.